The smoke was coming out of kitchen. The door had caught fire.. Father was crying loudly to neighbours for help. He began to take out costly things. The neighbours came quickly. Some helped us in bringing out the things from the house, while others ran to a well nearby for water. There were only three buckets in the house. They cried for more buckets. Some brought four more.
My father was nervous and he lost presence of mind. He did not know what to save and what to leave behind. There was more noise and less work. People were running over the roof and pouring water with buckets. They believed onion-family foods provoked sexual desire.
For the raw foodists and young children we always laid out trays of sliced raw vegetables. However, a visitor once tried to convince me that chopping a vegetable would destroy its etheric field. I chased him out of the kitchen with a huge Chinese cleaver.
Some also insisted on eating fruits and vegetables only when they were in season, while other communalists intemperately demanded oranges in January. Besides these opinions on which food to serve, there were as many opinions on the manner in which it should be prepared.
Most everyone agreed that nothing could be boiled in aluminum, except the gourmet cooks, who insisted that only aluminum would spread the heat satisfactorily. By consensus, we always steamed vegetables in the minimum amount of water to avoid throwing away precious vitamins. Certain enthusiasts would even hover around the kitchen and volunteer to drink the darkish liquids left behind. About washing vegetables, however, controversy swirled.
Some commune members firmly believed that vital substances clinging just under the skins must be preserved at all costs. Others felt that a host of evil pollutants adhered to the same surfaces that needed to be vigorously scrubbed away.
One visitor explained that the best policy was to dip all vegetables in bleach, and gave such a convincing argument for her belief that we would have adopted the principle at once were it not for a fortuitous bleach shortage. I used to fantasize writing a universal cookbook for eating theorists. Each food would come complete with a citation from one system or authority claiming it the most divine edible ever created, and another, from an opposing view, damning it as the worst pestilence one human being ever fed to another.
This would not be difficult. For example, a famous naturopathic concept proclaims that raw fruits and vegetables are the ideal foods. I am referring to macrobiotics. This influential system of alternative dietary principles insists that all vegetables should be cooked; fruits should not be eaten at all.
For current readers who have never heard of macrobiotics, the same is true, pretty much, of all East Asian medicine, the grand health system of which acupuncture is a part. Similar discrepancies abound in alternative dietary medicine. The following rules may be found in one or another food theory: Spicy food is bad.
Cayenne peppers are health promoting. Fasting on oranges is healthy. Citrus fruits are too acidic. Fruits are the ideal food. Milk is good only for young cows. Pasteurized milk is even worse. Fermented foods aid digestion. Vinegar is a poison. Apple cider vinegar cures most illnesses. Proteins should not be combined with starches.
Aduki beans and brown rice should always be cooked together. The discovery that nutritional medicine was so chaotic troubled me. Yet I could always hope that a universal theory of nutrition might eventually be found. What disturbed me more observing the extremism that so frequently develops among those who propound dietary cures. I remember a macrobiotic seminar at the commune, led by Mr.
An audience of at least thirty-five listened with rapt attention as Mr. It slows the digestion, he explained, clogs the metabolism, plugs the arteries, dampens the digestive fire, and causes mucous, respiratory diseases and cancer. At that time, a member of the commune by the name of John lived in a small room upstairs from the seminar hall. But he had been on the wagon for nearly six months when he tiptoed through the class.
John was a shy and private man who would never voluntarily have so exposed himself. But upon returning from the kitchen with a beverage he discovered that there was no way he could reach his room without crossing through the crowded seminar. The leader noticed him immediately. Class, look at him! He is a testament to the health destroying properties of milk. Study the puffy skin of his face. Note the bags under his eyes. Look at the stiffness of his walk.
Milk, class, milk has done this to him! Bewildered, John looked at his glass, then up at the condemning faces, then back to the milk again. His lower lip quivered. By focusing on diet singlemindedly and ignoring all other aspects of life, alternative practitioners like Dr. But too often patient and alternative practitioner work together to create an exaggerated focus on food. Many of the most unbalanced people I have ever met are those have devoted themselves to healthy eating. Orthorexia begins innocently enough, as a desire to overcome chronic illness or to improve general health.
But because it requires considerable willpower to adopt a diet which differs radically from the food habits of childhood and the surrounding culture, few accomplish the change gracefully.
Most must resort to an iron self-discipline bolstered by a hefty sense of superiority over those who eat junk food. The act of eating pure food begins to carry pseudo-spiritual connotations. As orthorexia progresses, a day filled with sprouts, umeboshi plums and amaranth biscuits comes to feel as holy as one spent serving the poor and homeless.
When an orthorexic slips up, which, depending on the pertinent theory, may involve anything from devouring a single raisin in violation of the law to consuming a gallon of Haagen Daz ice cream and a supreme pizza , he experiences a fall from grace, and must take on numerous acts of penitence.
These usually involve ever stricter diets and fasts. An orthorexic will be plunged into gloom by eating a hot dog, even if his team has just won the world series. Conversely, he can redeem any disappointment by extra efforts at dietary purity. Orthorexia eventually reaches a point where the sufferer spends most of his time planning, purchasing and eating meals. In this essential characteristic, orthorexia bears many similarities to the two named eating disorders: Whereas the bulimic and anorexic focus on the quantity of food, the orthorexic fixates on its quality.
All three give to food a vastly excessive place in the scheme of life. It often surprises me how blissfully unaware proponents of nutritional medicine remain of the propensity for their technique to create an obsession.
Indeed, popular books on natural medicine seem to actively promote orthorexia in their enthusiasm for sweeping dietary changes. No doubt, this is a compensation for the diet-averse stance of modern medicine. However, when healthy eating becomes a disease in its own right, it is arguably worse than the health problems which began the cycle of fixation.
As often happens, my sensitivity to the problem of orthorexia comes through personal experience. I myself passed through a phase of extreme dietary purity when I lived at the commune. This gave me constant access to fresh, high-quality produce.
Eventually, I became such a snob that I disdained to eat any vegetable that had been plucked from the ground more than fifteen minutes. I was a total vegetarian, chewed each mouthful of food fifty times, always ate in a quiet place which meant alone , and left my stomach partially empty at the end of each meal. After a year or so of this self imposed regime, I felt light, clear headed, energetic, strong and self-righteous.
I regarded the wretched, debauched souls about me downing their chocolate chip cookies and fries as mere animals reduced to satisfying gustatory lusts.
Feeling an obligation to enlighten my weaker brethren, I continuously lectured friends and family on the evils of refined, processed food and the dangers of pesticides and artificial fertilizers.
For two years I pursued wellness through healthy eating, as outlined by naturopathic tradition and emphasized with little change in the health food literature of today. Gradually, however, I began to sense that something was wrong. The need to obtain food free of meat, fat and artificial chemicals put nearly all social forms of eating out of reach. Furthermore, intrusive thoughts of sprouts came between me and good conversation.
Perhaps most dismaying of all, I began to sense that the poetry of my life had diminished. All I could think about was food. But even when I became aware that my scrabbling in the dirt after raw vegetables and wild plants had become an obsession, I found it terribly difficult to free myself.
I had been seduced by righteous eating. I was eventually saved from the doom of eternal health food addiction through three fortuitous events.
The first occurred when my guru in eating, a lacto-ovo-vegetarian headed on his way toward Fruitarianism, suddenly abandoned his quest. He explained that he had received a sudden revelation. I did not eat cheese, much less pasteurized, processed and artificially flavored cheese. Worse still, I happened to be sick with a head cold that day. According to my belief system at that time, if I fasted on juice I would be over the cold in a day. However, if I allowed great lumps of indigestible dairy products to adhere to my innards I would no doubt remain sick for a week — if I did not go on to develop pneumonia.
Davis was earnest and persistent in his expression of gratitude, and would have taken as a personal rebuke my refusal of the cheese. Shaking with trepidation, I chewed the dread processed product. To my great surprise, it seemed to have a healing effect. My cold symptoms disappeared within an hour. It was as if my acceptance of his gratitude healed me.
Nonetheless, even after this miracle I could not let go. I actually quit visiting Davis to avoid further defiling myself. This was a shameful moment, a sign that I was drowning. The life-ring which finally drew me out was tossed by a Benedictine monk named Brother David Stendal-Rast. I had met him at a seminar he gave on the subject of gratitude. Afterwards, I volunteered to drive him home, for the covert purpose of getting to know him better.
I thought that he would respect me for never filling my stomach more than by half, and so on. The drive was long. As expected, all the waiters were caucasian, but the food was unexpectedly good. The sauces were fragrant and tasty, the vegetables fresh, and the eggrolls crisp.
We were both pleasantly surprised. After I had eaten the small portion which sufficed to fill my stomach halfway, Brother David casually mentioned his belief that it was an offense against God to leave food uneaten on the table. This was particularly the case when such a great restaurant had so clearly been placed in our path as a special grace.
David was a slim man and a monk, so I found it hardly credible that he followed this precept generally. But he continued to eat so much that I felt good manners, if not actual spiritual guidance, required me to imitate his example.
I filled my belly for the first time in a year. Then, he upped the ante. David led me on a two mile walk through the unexceptional town as we ate our ice cream, edifying me with spiritual stories and, in every way, keeping my mind from dwelling on the offense against Health Food I had just committed. Later that evening, Brother David ate an immense dinner in the monastery dining room, all the while urging me to have more of one dish or another. I understood the point. But what mattered more was the fact that this man, for whom I had the greatest respect, was giving me permission to break my Health Food vows.
It proved a liberating stroke. Yet, it was more than a month later that I finally decided to make a decisive break. I was filled with feverish anticipation. Hordes of long suppressed gluttonous desires, their legitimacy restored, clamored to receive their due.
On the twenty minute drive into town, I planned and re-planned my junk food menu. Within ten minutes of arriving, I had eaten three tacos, a medium pizza, and a large milkshake. I brought the ice cream sandwich and banana split home, for I was too stuffed to violate my former vows further. My stomach was stretched to my knees. The next morning I felt guilty and defiled. Only the memory of Brother David kept me from embarking on a five day fast. I only fasted two days. It took me at least two more years to attain the ability to follow a middle way in eating easily, without rigid calculation or wild swings.
Anyone who has ever suffered from anorexia or bulimia will recognize classic patterns in this story: These are all symptoms of an eating disorder. Having experienced them so vividly in myself twenty years ago, I cannot overlook their presence in others.
I almost always recommend dietary improvements to my patients. How could I not? A low fat, semi-vegetarian diet is potent preventive medicine for nearly all major illnesses, and more focused dietary interventions can often dramatically improve specific health problems. Like drug therapy, I have come to regard dietary modification as a treatment with serious potential side effects.
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